Divorce 101

What you need to get out of limbo and divorce in a way that is fair and legally finalised.

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The psychology of amicable divorce

To understand the psychology of amicable divorce, it is important to understand the principles of the endowment effect and superiority bias. For those just beginning an amicable divorce, it seems like it should be a straightforward process. After all, we’re talking about two mature adults who fully intend to collaborate to reach a fair outcome. […]

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The 4 biggest fears amicable couples have in divorce

Even amicable couples can be crippled by the fears that come with a divorce. Find out more about the 4 biggest fears most amicable couples have in divorce, and what can be done to overcome them. Do you know what ophidiophobia is? (hover here for the answer) Okay, what about Pteromerhanophobia? (hover here for the […]

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The 3 important needs amicable couples have in divorce

There are 3 important needs most divorcing couples have. Finding a way to meet these needs will help couples reach their goal of an amicable divorce. Four-hundred years ago, John Donne wrote, “No man is an island, entire of itself.” While his language could be more inclusive, the idea that we can’t do it alone […]

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The 6 stages most divorcing couples go through

Even though every separation is unique, most people who go through a separation and divorce can expect to face the same 6 stages as they work towards a resolution. “All happy families are alike; each unhappy family is unhappy in its own way.” These classic words begin Leo Tolstoy’s masterpiece Anna Karenina. But is Tolstoy […]

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Divorce online: a step by step guide for doing your online divorce application in Australia

Many divorcing couples spend too long in emotional limbo. When things are unresolved, it can be hard to move forward with your life. I’ll show you how to divorce jointly online in a way that is simple, respectful and mutual. You can do this yourself right now using the Commonwealth Courts Portal. [BTW: You can […]

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Divorce in Australia: Who gets what? Why you aren’t necessarily entitled to 50/50

Splitting things 50/50 is an idea that is deeply ingrained in most of us from childhood, but it’s often not actually the fairest outcome. Many separating couples make the mistake of assuming that they simply need to keep everything in their own names and split whatever they own jointly – without realising that one of […]

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Finding your way through divorce process in Australia

The divorce process in Australia: How to find your way through

When a relationship breaks down, many people find themselves overwhelmed and unsure of where to even start. This simple visual guide steps you through the process that you’ll need to follow to legally finalise things and move forward. There are a number of agreements and documents that you might need to consider depending on your […]

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5 things you need to know about the law and your divorce

The 5 things you need to know about family law and your divorce

There’s 5 things that you should know right off the bat to help you to cut through the confusion and get on with finding an amicable, positive way forward. Most people going through separation and divorce are doing it for the first time, so it’s not surprising that you may not know even the most […]

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3 ways to keep your relationships the right way up when holidays turn the world upside down

3 ways to keep your relationships the right way up when holidays turn the world upside down

The promise of the holidays is peace and reconnection, but ironically, as we all know too well, holidays often deliver exactly the opposite – disconnection, frustration, and relationship tension. When we go from normal life into the holiday season, it can be a bit like crossing into “the Upside Down” in the TV series Stranger […]

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How to separate and divorce amicably

How to separate and divorce amicably in Australia

Separating and divorcing amicably often turns out to be much harder than couples initially expect. To give yourself the best chance, know your options and be clear from the beginning about what’s most important to you moving forward from the relationship. As a mediator and designer of dispute resolution systems, I’ve spent a lot of […]

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