Divorce 101

To understand the psychology of amicable divorce, it is important to understand the principles of the endowment effect and superiority bias. For those just beginning an amicable divorce, it seems like it should be a straightforward process. After all, we’re talking about two mature adults who fully intend to collaborate to reach a fair outcome. […]

Even amicable couples can be crippled by the fears that come with a divorce. Find out more about the 4 biggest fears most amicable couples have in divorce, and what can be done to overcome them. Do you know what ophidiophobia is? (hover here for the answer) Okay, what about Pteromerhanophobia? (hover here for the […]

There are 3 important needs most divorcing couples have. Finding a way to meet these needs will help couples reach their goal of an amicable divorce. Four-hundred years ago, John Donne wrote, “No man is an island, entire of itself.” While his language could be more inclusive, the idea that we can’t do it alone […]

Even though every separation is unique, most people who go through a separation and divorce can expect to face the same 6 stages as they work towards a resolution. “All happy families are alike; each unhappy family is unhappy in its own way.” These classic words begin Leo Tolstoy’s masterpiece Anna Karenina. But is Tolstoy […]

Many divorcing couples spend too long in emotional limbo. When things are unresolved, it can be hard to move forward with your life. I’ll show you how to divorce jointly online in a way that is simple, respectful and mutual. You can do this yourself right now using the Commonwealth Courts Portal. [BTW: You can […]

Splitting things 50/50 is an idea that is deeply ingrained in most of us from childhood, but it’s often not actually the fairest outcome. Many separating couples make the mistake of assuming that they simply need to keep everything in their own names and split whatever they own jointly – without realising that one of […]

When a relationship breaks down, many people find themselves overwhelmed and unsure of where to even start. This simple visual guide steps you through the process that you’ll need to follow to legally finalise things and move forward. There are a number of agreements and documents that you might need to consider depending on your […]

There’s 5 things that you should know right off the bat to help you to cut through the confusion and get on with finding an amicable, positive way forward. Most people going through separation and divorce are doing it for the first time, so it’s not surprising that you may not know even the most […]

The promise of the holidays is peace and reconnection, but ironically, as we all know too well, holidays often deliver exactly the opposite – disconnection, frustration, and relationship tension. When we go from normal life into the holiday season, it can be a bit like crossing into “the Upside Down” in the TV series Stranger […]

Separating and divorcing amicably often turns out to be much harder than couples initially expect. To give yourself the best chance, know your options and be clear from the beginning about what’s most important to you moving forward from the relationship. As a mediator and designer of dispute resolution systems, I’ve spent a lot of […]